I work with a lot of clients who have anxiety or are over-emotional due to picking up others emotions. This is where they experience the other persons emotions: pain, unhappiness, happiness etc. and then they claim it theirs.
Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another being (a human or non-human animal) is experiencing from within the other being’s frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another’s position. Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
Have you ever felt someone’s pain to a level you felt it yourself? Or saw someone cry and feel their sadness? Or instantly became happy because another person smiled and was happy?
I am an empath which helps me in my line of work. I decided a few years ago that I wasn’t going to fight who I am but to work with my many gifts and apply it to my advantage.
When I give an energetic healing sessions, I open my palm chakras and feel the clients energies above their body. This gives me signals to how they feel inside.
I remember one day, there was four of us giving reiki to a person and as I was on top of her heart chakra, I felt loss and grief. It made me so sad for the grief she held inside. There was no communication to indicate she had loss but I could feel (clairsentience) what she was holding on to. When I told her about the grief I felt, she replied she had a lot of loss in her life.
Another time, I was standing next to a person and someone asked her a question, “Have you experienced any loss?” and the tears started to flow down my face. I could feel her sadness without anyone saying a thing. I connected with her heart chakra and allowed myself to feel what she holds inside.
I was picking up what they were putting down by being next to her! 🙂
Although you may not think that any of these cases apply to you – they may on a different level. We must understand our gifts in order to work with them.
Empaths are extremely sensitive people (hi there friend!). They may cry easily over things such as movies or books or knowingly sense how things are in a room prior to walking in.
This can be overwhelming if you don’t know how to control the sponge and keep absorbing all the emotions that are around.
I tell my clients, “Observe, don’t absorb!“
How do you manage the gift of feeling others emotions?
- Observe your feelings: Usually the low-energy feelings (anger, sadness, fear, worry) are not yours. Instead of reacting, observe yourself. For example, someone is yelling at you because they are upset at something, know in this moment that they are upset. Don’t let it cause a chain reaction that makes you upset.
- Ask yourself: Why am I feeling this way? Where did it from? Is this the other persons energy that I’m taking on or is this from a previous event? Is it emotional residue that has been left behind and lingering in this space? (If so, you may want to clear your space!)
- Let go. Why hold on to stuff that’s not yours? It’s bound to make an energetic blockage! Let it go…. If I’m feeling feisty, I imagine the words coming at me and I’m boxing them back 🙂 If I’m in a down mood, I journal. When you know it’s not your crap (my favorite saying) then release it on its way. You don’t need it. You don’t want it. It’s theirs. Don’t let it take your power. You can simply say, “I don’t want this” and move on. It’s your choice.
Know that being an empath is a gift, not a curse. We all need to learn how to mange our own feelings and decipher which are ours and which aren’t, which ones are you going to keep and which ones do you release, which ones make you happy and which ones don’t.
It all starts with you if you want.
Love and Light,